What to Avoid for Living Happily Ever After (which all couples finally do in my novels)

During a Bible Study Session I attended, the subject of divorce came up. One member volunteered to check statistics on the reasons couples divorce.  This is what she found:

Today’s Reasons for Divorce

  • 57%       Too much conflict and arguing
  • 41% Getting married too young
  • 31% Financial problems
  • 36% Substance abuse
  • 25% Domestic violence
  • 12% Health problems
  • 13% Lack of support from family
  • 13% Little or no premarital education and religious differences

In a class on marriage I taught when I worked in a federal prison, I came up with ten tips for couples to handle disagreements. At the end of class, I presented each resident with a wooden plaque with these tips. I have also made decoupage plaques with these rules for wedding presents.

Couples Rules for Fighting Fair

  1. Decide what you are fighting about.
  2. Stay on the subject.
  3. Don’t bring up mistakes made a long time ago.
  4. Tell it like it is, and don’t pass the buck.
  5. Tell how you honestly feel about things.
  6. Get involved in the discussion. Listen to each other.
  7. Don’t run the other down or criticize his or her ability to do his or her job.
  8. Don’t call each other nasty names.
  9. Don’t hit each other.
  10. Don’t hit below the belt by criticizing the other’s sensitive spots.
  11. Think of different ways to solve the problem that can satisfy both of you.
  12. Say you’re sorry and make up.



About carolynrae

Carolyn Rae (a/k/a Carolyn Rae Williamson) - Her passion is writing romantic suspense and delving into the minds of stalkers, bombers and terrorists that threaten the course of true love. Romancing the Doctor, follows two lovers in a search for a dangerous virus spreader. It was published on May 22, 2018, Watch for the Cordillera Royals Series, soon to come, with Pretend Princess, Royal Wedding Scoop, and Holiday with a Royal. She has also written a Witness Protection Series, which includes Hiding from Love, Protected by Love, and Tempted by Love. She wrote the text of There IS Life After Lettuce (Eakin Press), a cookbook for heart patients and diabetics and has a master's degree in home economics. Whenever she tastes a delicious high calorie dish, she goes home to make a more healthy, but still tasty version for her husband to taste. Her profile, travel, and cooking articles have appeared in the Fort Worth Star Telegram, The Dallas Morning News, Positive Parenting, AAA World, Hawaii and Alaska, and Romance Writer's Report.
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